HIstory

Her sophomore year of high school, The Sunflower Project’s Founder Leah Zeiger fell in love with a boy. It was exciting! A seemingly innocent, young romance, their relationship included dinner with each other’s parents, dances, outings with friends, late night texting, and laughter. He played on the baseball team and joined Leah at Young Life events. Leah felt special, for he had chosen HER. Leah’s friends thought she was “so lucky!” to have a boyfriend and viewed the early signs of his intense jealousy as normal and cute. 

Yet, the relationship quickly became unhealthy. He wanted to know where Leah was at all times and sent panicked text messages if she did not respond immediately. There were many multi-hour phone calls where Leah felt she had to beg him to trust her, even though she had not done anything “wrong" in the first place. Constantly assuming she was cheating on him, he demanded proof that she was faithful, became verbally abusive, and deconstructed her sense of safety. For nine months, he manipulated her understanding of love and sought to control her every move. Using sex as a weapon, he exploited her emotionally and physically, yet all the while claimed to love her. At 16 years old, Leah was forced to digest and process the unfathomable trauma of rape.

Leah attempted to break up with him six times, and each time, he became increasingly abusive, verbally, physically, and sexually. When the seventh attempt became final, she anticipated a sense of freedom and healing, yet the horrors were only beginning. His behavior escalated - quickly. He stalked Leah and harassed her online through Facebook and fake texting apps. He broke into her home and threatened the safety of her entire family. 

At first, Leah and her family got a preliminary restraining order. Despite not receiving much information or guidance from LAPD, after Pasadena police took up her case, Leah began to feel supported. She fought for years. Testifying for two hours in her ex’s trial, and another hour in the trial of his accomplice, finally her ex was sentenced to two years in prison.

Leah turned to dance and movement to process this unthinkable trauma. She choreographed a solo Unnamed, which prompted the creation of her celebrated documentary: Untold.

Deeply hidden in the shadows, sexual abuse among teenagers is an epidemic today. Three years after their shared nightmare, the filmmaker and his daughter get together to tell the story that is rarely told, one of a teenage dream turned into a family nightmare.

Like many young survivors, Leah was a headstrong, independent, and intelligent young woman, yet relational abuse does not discriminate against any “kind” of person. According to the CDC, in 2021, almost 20% of female students experienced sexual violence by anyone during the past year and 14% had been physically forced to have sex. Although high, what is even higher are rates of suicide as a result of this trauma. 

Leah identifies as White, was raised in a safe neighborhood, and remains close with her immediate and extended family. Determined to transform her horrific experience into something beautiful, Leah forced her way forward with the support from her family and therapist. She went onto Columbia College for school, built herself back up, and returned to Los Angeles to work as a Choreographer. 

Yet Leah recognizes that many - if not MOST - teenagers don’t have the tools or support to find the light that pulls them through their situation, and this fundamental inequity drives The Sunflower Project’s work. Young sunflowers ‘follow the sun’ via a process called heliotropism, and the daily rising of the sun prompts hope, renewal of energy, and fresh beginnings. With the intention to help all survivors ‘turn towards the sun,’ The Sunflower Project’s Founder Leah aims to affirm survivors of their fundamental right to live joyfully and empower them to step into the life they deserve.

"Abuse is an ugly story. When I dance, I make it beautiful. Turning ugly into beautiful forces people to listen. They will learn. They will accept, and ultimately, they will help."

-Leah Zeiger, Founder

The Other Side

Leah’s story was featured as part of the National Domestic Hotline’s series “The Other Side,” which premiered in October 2019 during Domestic Violence Awareness month. The series highlighted survivors’ stories of overcoming abuse and encouraging others to reach out to the hotline.